Kenya Women, Arise!!!!!!!

Statistics say 60% of Kenyan women of marriageable age are single mothers.This is not condemn single mothers but one thing is obvious,there is someone who never took his responsibility of a father seriously,thus landing our girls to this unfortunate state.
As this trends of irresponsible fatherhood grows by leaps and bounds,then what should the women who are in their early yrs do,before getting hooked before marriage
Wisdom teaches that in such a situation,some measures must be put in place,before any good and Godly woman says i do!
I may not know all the measures to put in place,but i have one that i feel is fundamental.The 1st one is the fear of God.When you fear God,the devil has no room to bring you down
The 2nd Investment for any single lady in her early yrs of life,is to educating yourself before you say i do .
Many times the media is full of hoary messages of women who have been abandoned, and with kids dangling on their back and on an empty stomach.When they cry for help to the government,anyone with amind should know how to avoid such a situation happening to him in future.Yes,not all marriages will last however how much we want but investing in educating yourself will make you have something to cushion you,and your kids,from impending danger of starvation and thus when you have a job,you will be able to see the kids through anything that comes with an irresponsible fatherhood.As they say,love never pays bills and for sure,it's true.Look for a way of sustaining yourself before you say i do.It will help you pay the bills and if [God forbid],your marriage crumbles,you will move on with ease,aware that you have something that will pay your rent,water and fees for the kids....just thinking buy you can add your thought too

Women are not property but Land is property that women in Kenya can own.
Support them to realize this goal and especially those who come from communities that treat them as one.

I am doing it through writing stories that will address this vice...and you what are you doing to ensure that they are liberated?
The ball is in your court now my dear reader.....

RAINS AS SHOWERS OF BLESSINGS TO MANY!!!

The rainy season is here with us here in Kenya.It has been raining in most part of the country since the beginning of this month.Farmers all over the country have welcomed the rains with a great relief since according to them, the rains are long overdue.
I had traveled to my upcountry home on Sunday last week where I stayed visiting till Wednesday of this week.Our upcountry is very hilly and what I saw during my short visit is breathtaking!!!The beautiful landscape that was covered by green vegetation.Majority of the families were busy in their farms planting crops like maize and beans.
The good news is that , most primary and high schools have closed and the children are at home.They are helping their parents with the planting of the crops instead of hiring people/ domestic workers to do the manual labour for them who have to be paid at the end of the day.The money saved is used to buy fertilizers and treated seeds for planting from recommended dealers/shops.These seeds are disease resistance.
I had a chance to visit some of these farmers while at home, who shared some of their experiences with me.Many expressed their joy over what they termed as a miracle(the long waited rains)Even though they were expecting it would rain, they said at times they rains fail to come at the expected time/right time like in the  year 2011 and the planted crops in the farms dries up.This situation can cause drought  and famine and when severe it can results into loose of  people lives together with their animals.
Benson Mwangi is an upcoming young farmer .He shared with me how his maize and beans dried up last year.He was forced to buy food for the first time since he ventured into active farming five years ago because he depends on money he gets from selling his maize and beans to meet his household needs.Mwangi says the crops have been doing well in all those five years until last year when they failed to yield.
Majority of people in big cities like Nairobi hates rainy seasons because of what they termed as exploitation from public vehicles drivers and their conductors.When it rains, as I found out from many of these commuters who use these public vehicles as means of transport,  is that they get overcharged by double or triple their normal fares.This is because when it rains , there is alot of traffic jam and vehicles move ''bumper to bumper''kind of style.This situation causes these vehicles  to consume a lot of fuel. As we  all know fuel is quite expensive here in Kenya due to the rate of inflation which was experienced last year when the value of  the Kenyan shilling went down.
But when I asked Benson to comment about the current rains which we are experiencing as a country lately, he reaped with joy saying,"RAIN MEANS EVERYTHING TO US FARMERS!"Water is life,life to plants animals and us people.Without rains our farming is doomed and those who buy food from us will suffer too.Mwangi added ..''I hope this year it will come with good tidings.May GOD grant us favorable weather conditions and enough rains so that He can compensate me and my fellow farmers from the lose we experienced last year when our crops dried up.
As I was watching it rain this afternoon from the window of my house, I just remembered the elated Benson Mwangi and many other farmers  whose to them ''RAIN'' is a sign of good yields, hope and good tidings in their lives as farmers.We in Nairobi and other major towns laments when it rains because we don't want to be held in traffic jams or pay more for fuel of fare not knowing that the foodstuffs that we but at the market/supermarkets are as a result of these rains.What we take for granted as NAIROBI-ANS'' means so much to others out there.
I was left wondering at the diversities in peoples way of earning their daily bread.Oh!It is truly amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!Thank you dear God for these showers of rains; they are truly showers of blessings to us as a nation!

 

HOW WILL I KNOW IF I'VE MET THE PERSON I SHOULD MARRY?

HOW WILL I KNOW IF I'VE MET THE PERSON I SHOULD MARRY?


The choice of a marriage partner should not be based on "I get a warm, wonderful feeling whenever we're together and I want to have that warm wonderful feeling forever, so let's go get married".
Feelings have no logic on their own. They need to be acknowledged, of course, but they need considerable assistance from your brain.
Marriage means choosing the person you will spend the rest of your life with. This, as you may have guessed, is a very long time to spend with one person.
This person will live with you, eat meals with you, sleep with you and go on vacation with you. More important yet, this person will share your children.
You need to choose wisely.
The decision should not be made based on Feelings alone. You need to as yourself some tough questions. The decisions have to be made on solid considerations like.
-Will this person be a good partner?
- Is she mature enough to put her own selfish desires aside to look out for what is best for the family?
-Is he prepared to be a good provider?
-What is his track record?
-Is he responsible enough to get a good job and keep it?
-Will this person be a good parent?
-Can you stand the thought of your children turning out exactly like this person?They will, you know. Children spend a lot of time with their parents and consequently pick up many or most of their parents' character traits. You had better like your spouse's traits a lot because you will be seeing them again in your children. If something were to happen to you, would you completely trust this person alone, with the task of raising and forming your children? This is not a pleasant thought, but it is an important consideration.
Not everyone dies at a ripe old age with great grandchildren gathered around the bed. Sometimes a parent dies and leaves young! children in the care of the other parent. If you feel that you would need to be around to correct or lessen this person's influence on your children, then you are considering the wrong person.
Does this person share your faith in God? God does not give us children So that we can mold them into the coolest, most popular people in school.
Our job is to get them to heaven. The bible says "Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring. [Malachi 2:15].
To do that what Malachi says, we need to raise the kids and make sure they believe in God.
It is tough to do that if only one parent believes. Saying "This is right and that is wrong, and I want you to ignore Mommy until you are thirty-five" does not work. Small children ask about eight million questions in a single day. The answers to those questions go a long way toward forming the kind of adults they will become. Who will be answering those questions for your children?
-Does this person you are marrying have sexual self-control?
Single People sometimes have this idea that marriage is just some kind of lifelong sex festival, and that as long as they have each other,they will never be tempted by other people. Wrong!
There are many times in every marriage when one partner or the other is sexually unavailable. Issues to do with illness, the last months of pregnancy, travel and etc can live a couple sometimes with days if not months of sexual inactivity and if your man\woman has not self control,disaster looms for the marriage.
Still on self control, there are also times when spouses, just get on each others nerves. At times like this, other people can seem very appealing. That can be dangerous, because there are plenty of very attractive people out there who are willing to make themselves available to married men and women. Do you want someone who has never said "no" to sex? If he is not good at saying "no" at eighteen, it won't be different at forty. Do you want to worry about whether or not your spouse is being faithful?
These are very important questions, and if you are not comfortable with All of the answers, you should definitely not marry this person.
None of this questions says that feelings play a big role in a marriage decision as it does in relationships.Every single man should look at their partners beyond the feeling and project if for real they meet this requirements as set in the questions above
You don't have to wait until you are married to realize that feelings can lie.Infact,if you you have a man you don't feel for much,yet he possesses all this qualities you better run for him and marry him.Marriage goes beyond feelings.
You need to be happy and excited about the prospect of spending your Life with someone,but your brain however must acknowledge that this person as a good choice too.Don't listen to your heart alone nor your head alone. Wait until your heart and head agree.Then go ahead without fear.May God help you